Word of the Week #1 – TRUST
By definition:
1. Firm reliance on the integrity, ability, or character of a person or thing.
2. Custody; care.
3. Something committed into the care of another; charge.
4.
a. The condition and resulting obligation of having confidence placed in one: violated a public trust.
b. One in which confidence is placed.
5. Reliance on something in the future; hope.
What a strong word to start with! This single word is much needed in any and all two-way conversations. If there is no trust, then the whole conversation is null. Everyone is talking and promising and hugging and laughing, but once they leave the conversation, they go back to feeling the same way they did before. Nothing changes without trust. Would I be wrong if I said that distrust begets more distrust? Trust is hard to gain, and even then it dangles from a very thin line. This connection only gets stronger with actions, not words.
The government may apologize all they want with words, but it’s their actions that count. So I open the forum to debate: do you trust their words? How healthy is the “trust” between your community and your government?
January 27th, 2010 at 8:07 am
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January 27th, 2010 at 11:20 am
Only dogs should trust the government. Dogs can be kicked and they will still come back for more. I am done being kicked. I would rather bite the hand that feeds me than be fed and then smacked 5 minutes later.
January 27th, 2010 at 12:45 pm
This is how I see the governemnt:
Once up a time a drug dealer felt bad for drugging his buyers. He said sorry and gave them money. They took the money to another drug dealer. The end.
January 27th, 2010 at 9:23 pm
The sad part about TRUST is that one of the two parties must always give in first. One of the two has to say “ok, I’m going to trust this person” and has to pt in his trust in 100%, if not it doesn’t work. The other side will see this, and also put their part in. The government cannot trust humans though, remember that they are primarily a business entity first, social entity after. So we can’t expect them to start trusting us!
February 2nd, 2010 at 8:10 am
Darren… do you mean that the Government “can” trust the people, but the people should be the first ones to take a step into the right direction?
Are you kidding me? Any time people get together and make a group/organization/boysclub/whatever… it’s always because they will have a vested interest in anything going on. They will have a motive to help, whatever will benefit their club. This also goes for the government, and churches too!
I don’t mean to sound paranoid, but I prefer to reconcile with one single person and not a big organization, because I simply can’t trust that they are willing to leave their rules/wants/needs to the side and act like civilized humans. That’s only for humans to do.
February 6th, 2010 at 1:13 pm
In my experience with trust I have found that it takes time and relationship for me to give it in the first place.
As for joining organizations – I usually try to read their mission statements to see if I agree with it or not because that is what people in that group will stand by.
With individuals like family – trust is naturally developed over time and also lost through offenses but can be reestablished if the two parties are willing. Sadly it is not always the case.
My experiences with organizations have ended up where I was whacked and the faceless organization did not own up to mistakes made. That is hard to carry. It does me no good to harbour bitterness because then I’m simply toxic to everyone that I relate to re: xyz organization. I have learned to walk in reality where people goof up. Trust levels do not magically jump back up – they have to be earned. This takes time and forgiveness on my part. I don’t automatically trust anyone or any organization – it must be earned if they want my trust.
Organizations have policies and sometimes people in those places are rigid and take on the role of the org. rather than use common sense and fairness.
A good word to ponder.
March 10th, 2010 at 9:42 am
Wikipedia says Trust is reliance on another person or entity. Having faith in others and believing them.
Trust is like faith. you can’t see it but you feel it. It’s giving a little of yourself to something or someone .
We feel trust. Emotions associated with trust include companionship, friendship, love, agreement, relaxation, comfort
Trust lives in the unseen world but it is in us all.
lack of trust is formed through are bad experiences as we go through life . Children and pets are the most trusting living things on earth they are Innocent and very forgiving.
March 15th, 2010 at 2:40 pm
How can you trust the apology of someone who has done great harm? I think that words are of no value in these cases, I would like to actions to their apologies, and no, money cannot just buy their way out. I personally apologized to someone who I had hurt, and I now donate my time to a local homeless organization as my way of saying “I am sorry”.
March 15th, 2010 at 9:41 pm
What a negative bunch you all are.
April 5th, 2010 at 12:48 pm
We have to trust ourselves first before we can trust anyone. this is will be hard to do if we are still rooted by negative impacts as reflected in the Tree of life metaphor. We have to replace those with positive ones therefore our limbs and branches would fourish.
In my opinion the government needs our help as we have made it part of the trunk. Presently I see we are all leaders and our representatives need our help. Trust is hard as reward and punishment is still very much alive. For example if you do not vote for me then you may not get anything.Who are our representatives representing? Power & control rule.